The Pursuit of Perfection

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Make this vision board for your perfect partner.

Sit with me and imagine your perfect workplace and perfect love, in your perfect home…

Ah, the elusive perfection that is never quite within grasp. And if it lands in our palm, it’s sure to flutter away far too soon.

“But wait! Don’t leave! It took me so long to get you!” (Even though I’m not sure I even want you.)

People trash seemingly perfect or “good enough” careers, relationships, even their own healthy bodies.

Strange behavior, coming from humans who are constantly striving tor the ideal.

Why do we destroy as much as we create?

Could it be that we as people are not perfect? How can we call forward perfection, knowing we can never sustainably rise to meet it?

As often as we rise, we also fall. (Or jump.)

Krishna Das has a beautiful kirtan song where he quotes Foreigner:

“I wanna know what love is,
I want you to show me.
I wanna feel what love is,
I know you can show me.”

If you ask life to show you Love, it shows you Wholeness. It shows you life as a pulsating, alive thing.

Part of us seeks what we think is perfect. That part is only looking at a fraction of Who We Are.

If you could look at the Whole of who you are, or at least feel into that whole…you would seek something else.

It would be “perfect plus”. Not just what our mind considers desirable, but what appeals to our heart and spirit as well.

Let’s tune it to what is Alive. What experiences are full of pulsating life? What experiences accept us as we are? Where can we be cranky and unfair, and also generous and playful?

Don’t seek perfection or imperfection, seek Life Alive.

Say, “Life, show me all that I am.”

Your life will come alive with experiences that feel Full and Nourishing.

That “something missing” feeling will be gone. Because you aren’t missing anymore. You aren’t missing the parts of you that get neglected by focusing on an incomplete vision of your happiness.

Are you brave enough to accept all that you are? Are you brave enough to accept the mess that you are?

If you are, life will have an endless array of love to show you. Love will be in every nook and cranny of your life.

Not the ideal, perfect love…but the one that is full of breath. The kind of love that invites all of you to come forward and live fully.

Let me know how it goes.

🙂

<3,

Heba