Joe Dispenza says that for you to experience something new in your life, you essentially have to become new yourself. You need to accommodate for the new things by adapting your personality.
In essence, if you constantly think about how you don’t have enough money, that trait becomes a part of your personality. To a degree, it dictates your behavior and your words, and even your relationships.
To experience having more than enough money, your personality would have to shift to include this new aspect. You now think about what you would like to do next with your money, for example. Your words and actions would follow this understanding that you have about your finances.
I’m most intrigued by this in terms of career, personal expression, and expanding your boundaries of experience.
Who are you? An artist? A mother? A chef? Someone-who-is-lost? A failure?
Two things hold you where you are, defined by a label.
1. Your own thoughts and habits.
2. The people around you who know you as you have been.
Even when you make the choice to shift your self perception, often others around you keep reminding you of who you were. And most troubling is your expectation that they won’t accept you as New. They won’t accept your new label or new activities.
So come, enter your Creation Cave. Don’t try to squeeze your new identity into the already over stuffed suitcase of your old identity.
You’ll need somewhere free of judgement. Free of reminders of who you have to be. You’ll need it to be quiet, and with lots of open space.
This is both an inner cave and an external space of creating. Inside, create a judgement free, quiet place where you can explore your new desire. In here, you can think whatever you like and you can imagine yourself however you would like to. There are no rules, no expectations.
On the outside, limit your exposure to other people’s thoughts and judgments. Not just about you, but in general. As you listen to people judging others, you participate in rigid labels. Part of you takes in this judgment, without even realizing.
Judging is a way of holding someone or something in captivity. If we see people as able to change and shift, we would not be able to judge. The judgement would become obsolete too quickly. Remove yourself, even temporarily, from this societal norm. It will bind you without you knowing that it has. You’ll feel like you can’t change, the world won’t let you [but that’s not true].
So, limit your exposure to the chatter of people. Withdraw your attention from those you cannot move away from. Attention is very powerful, and most everybody wants yours. But you have the power to control what you give attention to. End conversations that don’t feel good early on. Un-focus your attention when someone you can’t get any from is in your face. Remember that they cannot control your thoughts, though they try to influence you.
And as your inner world quiets, create a space on your computer or in your room, garage, outside in the yard…where you can work on the new aspects of you. This is an external representation of the change you’re making.
Wear clothes you’ve never worn before. Buy that thing you’ve stopped yourself from getting. Maybe you’re a budding photographer-go buy a camera. A soon to be body builder? Research everything you can about weight lifting. Start practicing the mechanics of lifting.
Find a space and some things that are a reflection of who you would like to become, the aspects of your personality that need to change for you to live out your desire.
Soon, it’ll seem more possible. It will feel more natural to you. It’s not that big of a leap from where you were to where you want to be. Stay quiet, stay focused. Stay slowly turning that wheel of change until you’re steady enough to emerge with something to show the world. And even then, pay no mind to their reaction. Smile because you did it, you did that first little thing that expresses the new you. Keep going. You got this.
You’ll get to know your Creation Cave. It will take new forms and include new ideas and desires, but you’ll know how to use it. You’ll know how to freely and easily shift who you are to become a more joyful expression of yourself.